Men vs Women in the Bedroom
Men and women are very different when it comes to sex.
According to Stephen Snyder M.D., a certified Sex Therapist, men tend to respond more to the physical aspects of their partner, whereas women tend to respond more to the emotional aspects and actions of their partner. There is no right or wrong way to enjoy a sexual experience, however, being aware of what your partner wants, or needs will make the experience more enjoyable for both of you.
Studies have shown that men are more likely to feel criticized or struggle to show intimacy in a relationship. This is most likely because of their desire to come off as strong and confident. However, at the same time, studies have also shown that men also seek praise and approval because of their “tender ego”. As a result, men tend to connect with their partner better through sex rather than communication. It allows them to show intimacy in a non-verbal way and the action of their partner having an orgasm gives them the praise and approval they desire. That being said, this is not to say that all men feel this way, it is just the average among men. There are men who prefer connecting through communication rather than physical intimacy, however, they are typically considered the exception to the rule.
Men also have a stronger sex drive than women. Studies have shown that a man’s sex drive is not only stronger than a woman’s but it is also more straightforward. Most men do not require as much of an emotional connection from their partner to reach an orgasm. Again, some men stray from these norms and struggle to perform at the beginning of a relationship if they are not fully comfortable or connected emotionally. In these situations, there are solutions such as taking things slow in order to get to know your partner or taking an to help with the performance anxiety that comes with a new relationship. Regardless, whether you are the exception or the rule to these sexual norms, men typically have a more relaxed time during any given sexual activity due to their increased sex drive and physical desire.
Women in the bedroom is a whole different ball game. When it comes to achieving an orgasm, there is a lot more that goes into sex. Research has shown that when women feel more neglected or ignored in a relationship, it can, in turn, hurt their sex drive.
Also, unlike men, women tend to connect with their partners more through emotional intimacy and communication, which is what ultimately increases their sex drive. This is not to say that physical attractiveness does not impact a woman’s sexual experience as well, because it does. However, it is not as crucial to most women as the emotional and communicative aspects of a relationship. A woman’s sexual desire is also thought to be influenced by social and cultural factors. For example, women are more easily influenced by their peers, unlike men.
Lastly, women have a more difficult time reaching orgasm than men do. According to Health Direct, this is not at all uncommon and can be due to physical, emotional, and psychological factors like hormone changes, self-consciousness, stress, or vaginal dryness–in fact, more than 80% of women do not orgasm from penetration alone. If this is the case, it’s important to acknowledge it and research what solutions are available for you. All of our bodies and minds do not operate in the same capacity—and one solution for one person may not be the right one for you.
If the inability to reach orgasm continues, women can also seek advice from their doctor who might suggest lifestyle changes, therapy or treatments. VSPOT Medi Spa specializes in women’s intimate health—we have every modality to help you not only enhance your orgasms but unabashedly embrace your sexual health. Our team of women gynecologist can help find the underlying cause of your not so big Oh’s—whether you need hormone replacement therapy, PRP, C02 lasers or a mix of everything. We get it and we can help.
The inability to orgasm can take a toll on a relationship, whether it is new or long-term. Therefore, both partners need to work together and be cognizant of each other’s sexual desires.
Men and women are very different when it comes to sexual experiences. The way they show and feel intimacy varies among both genders, which is why it’s important that they try to understand what their partner needs to help each other feel confident and excited in the bedroom. The more they learn about each other the better their relationship will be physically and emotionally.