Help! I Don’t Orgasm During Sex

Help! I Don’t Orgasm During Sex

“My partner can’t make me orgasm” is one of the most common phrases heard here at VSPOT. Dozens of women have come in saying that they have no problem reaching “The Big O” on their own with or without a toy, but when it comes to doing it with their partner they just can’t get that release.

The female orgasm unfortunately, just like everything else female, is extremely complicated. I sat down with some VSPOT Experts to get the answers for some really popular followup questions to “What do I do if my partner can’t make me orgasm?”

1. How many different ways can my body come to climax ? 

“The most common forms of orgasms come from stimulating the clitoris, vagina and a combination of both but women can also orgasm from anal sex as well as from stimulation from any number of erogenous zones,” said VSPOT expert Tara Ford, PA-C. A women’s health magazine article quoted Dr. Jessica O’ Reily author of “The New Sex Bible”  who said,

“Sex is often pigeon-holed into a physical act involving the genitals, but the reality is that the hottest sex happens between our ears—and is often enhanced by how we use our breath/lungs,” O’Reilly says. “Your breath impacts your interpretation of sensations and helps to put your mind into a state conducive to experiencing pleasure.” 

What she’s really saying is that you can also think and breathe your way into climax.

2. Is it normal not to orgasm from penetrative sex alone ?

“Yes, it’s normal! An important thing to note is that on average only 3 out of 10 women can even orgasm during intercourse. So despite what we see in movies and in porn, it’s not common for women to experience an orgasm during penetrative sex alone.” Ford said. 

Based on a recent study done by the Journal of Sex & Marital Therapy Journal of Sex & Marital Therapy, 18.4 % has become the widely accepted statistic of how many women say that penetrative sex alone gets them to the O.

3. How do I get my partner to find my G-Spot ?

“It doesn’t exist!” VSPOT Expert Ford PA-C said emphatically when I asked her this question. What people refer to as the G-Spot is actually the back side of the clitoris, what physicians call the vagina’s anterior wall. 

So I asked her “Well how do I get him to find my anterior wall” ? 

Her advice:

 “Focus on pleasure, don’t focus on trying to find a specific structure. Focus on what feels good and communicate that with your partner. Communication is essential for having a great sex life!” 

4. How important is lubrication when trying to orgasm ?

Every sex expert including “Sex with Emily” to Shan Boodram, all raved about adding an organic water based lube into their sex life. I’d always thought to myself “I’m wet enough.” Never “could being wetter make this feel even better?” Even though the obvious answer was, Yes!

5. Is there anything that I can do for myself before sex to help me orgasm during partnered sex ?

Being in the right state of mind can absolutely alter your ability to climax or even enjoy sex. To get in the mood the right answer is whatever makes you feel relaxed, sexy, and confident. That could mean a warm bath before or a nice massage with some CBD infused oil. VSPOT Experts suggest showing your partner how you bring yourself to climax in a sexy way. 

6. What if after adding lube, getting in the mood and showing my partner how I bring myself to climax, it still doesn’t feel as good as I know it could ?

 VSPOT offers a painless treatment that has the ability to not only enhance the power of your orgasms but allows them to happen much easier and quicker. The O-SHOT is performed by a certified VSPOT Expert with the highest quality PRP treatment available. 

What that means is that your blood is drawn like a regular blood draw and then spun in a top of the line centrifuge to separate the Platelet Rich Plasma (PRP). The VSPOT Expert first numbs the area then injects your blood directly into the clitoris and anterior wall (formally known as the G-SPOT). This treatment is completely painless with virtually no downtime. Hard to believe but absolutely true. 

You can start having sex the very next day ! While you sit back and sip some wine a VSPOT Expert can change the meaning of an orgasm for you, for life.

This treatment comes with a take home gift of the VSPOT Feminine Serum. This clinical serum will enhance blood flow to the clitoris by 80% jump starting that O-Shot for maximum Orgasmic Potential. 


Book your consultation with a VSPOT expert now to see if this is the perfect next step for you.

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